Wednesday, August 27, 2008

And the Lesson is...

John and I met with the birth mother Sunday night. It was a great meeting. We felt an instant connection to this young lady and I think we all felt better after having talked and shared. So, as of today, we are all going through with things. I am waiting to hear from the lawyer about our next steps. Our Ethiopian adoption will go on hold and I've just decided to give up trying to control whether our forms and paperwork will last until we can adopt from Ethiopia (we have to wait at least one year before adopting again). It wouldn't be the first time we lost some money in this process. So, the lesson for us is...Quit trying to control this process and enjoy the ride. Easier to write than do, but so far, when we have tried to manipulate or control paperwork, government forms, and process we have been diverted in a new direction.

Everyone is asking if it will be an open or closed adoption. We aren't sure. But we already feel like we were brought into this birth mother's life and to completely forget about that just doesn't feel good. Those are details we will work out as we go along. Could she change her mind? Yes. But right now, she feels sure she will go through with it. We all have to learn not to judge her and try to empathize with her in this situation too.

We are excited about this new direction. So, we begin to think about a nursery, cloth diapers (yes, I said cloth), car seats, and long nights. And we pray (a lot) for God to be working with our birth mother and our baby that they both are healthy and feeling God's peace for a huge transition in all our lives.
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2 comments:

Jennifer Barker said...

John and Susan! What a HUGE and Exciting step towards your child. You have been on my mind and my dream had had about you was almost like a vision. God will help direct you in the right way with all of your decisions. We will continue to pray for you and pray for the birth mother and your baby. May God keep you all enveloped in his enormous hands! Let us know if you need any help with your new little one! We have two under our belt and hope for more!
Love you both!

August 27, 2008 at 1:01 PM
John and Susan Heun said...

Thanks SO much Jennifer. We have commented about your dream often. Thanks for your support. It means a lot to us.

August 27, 2008 at 5:59 PM

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A Prayer to Guide Us Through This

Susan had lunch with a friend who shared this prayer with her:

Please infuse my being with your light--surround me with your love, that I may be lifted up and carried by your grace. Whisper into my thinking the inspiration that will help me through this. Help me be clear and calm. Embolden my heart with the courage to stay present and connected, for I know that in your presence lies my healing. I ask you to guide me-and everyone involved in this situation-every step of the way. Lift my spirit into a higher vibration that I may grow from this experience and become my greatest potential. Let there be a miracle. I am open and willing to have a miracle occur. Let the healer rise and take charge. I thank you in advance as I know that it is already so.